Gay Men Over 30 Are Sharing Their Dating Advice
11.2.2023 05:40
I'm a gay man who didn't start actually dating until his late twenties. I often blame my lack of dating experience on the fact that I wasn't 'out' in high school, and feel like I missed out on formative teenage dating experiences — a super common sentiment among queer men.
So, when I came across these threads of dating advice from gay men over 30 years old, I was immediately intrigued. Here are the golden pieces of advice that stuck out to me:
1. "Work on your stuff (therapy, friends, journaling, silent retreats, however you need to), but don't wait until you're finished working on yourself to date. You'll never be finished. If the guy you are dating has stuff and is not working on it, walk away."
2. "Don’t go in with the expectation of a relationship. Go in expecting to get to know someone. It’s a mistake I made repeatedly early on. Focusing on making a relationship ignores the key ingredient — a partner. Someone else cannot make you happy. The best relationships are for sharing happiness."
So, when I came across these threads of dating advice from gay men over 30 years old, I was immediately intrigued. Here are the golden pieces of advice that stuck out to me:
1. "Work on your stuff (therapy, friends, journaling, silent retreats, however you need to), but don't wait until you're finished working on yourself to date. You'll never be finished. If the guy you are dating has stuff and is not working on it, walk away."
2. "Don’t go in with the expectation of a relationship. Go in expecting to get to know someone. It’s a mistake I made repeatedly early on. Focusing on making a relationship ignores the key ingredient — a partner. Someone else cannot make you happy. The best relationships are for sharing happiness."